Guy Gives Friend a Bad Job Referral After Friend Ghosts Him

Brad Dickson • Managing Editor

Jul 6, 2022 10:00 AM EDT

If you want to use someone as a job reference, it's probably best not to treat them like used garbage beforehand. Or is that just us?

This guy was "best" friends with his partner in crime before uncomfortable vulnerability drove a wedge in their relationship. The poster of the topic describes that he felt as if the two had grown close enough that he could open up to his friend more. He tried his "absolute best not to trauma dump," but something in what he said scared his friend away.

What is it with us guys and being completely uncomfortable with sharing (or having shared with us) the fact that one of us is not having a good time? It's such an insanely toxic thing; I've had friends who were clearly suffering and dealing with something but were utterly unable to open up. I've had friends I had no idea were dealing with demons.

This thread was posted to Reddit's r/AITA by the friend who was ghosted, Redditor u/evanaugh. He's wondering if he was in the wrong for giving this "friend" a bad reference.

All I have to say to that is this: Look, man, if he's not friend enough to help you deal with your problems, then he wasn't a friend. Friends stick by you and help you even when things are tough.

I mean, one thing is for sure; You won't be able to tell a recruiter that he was dependable or loyal.

For more terrible friends being terrible friends check out this woman who told her friends that they weren't ready for children.

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